This has nothing to do with emc or Minecraft at all, I just know emc has a friendly amount of people willing to help me around here. Maybe this will get locked for its content, but I just want to talk to this community. I attempted posting the chat of what happened to imgur and seeing what people there thought of it, but I had 7 downvotes and 0 upvotes along with 2 comments calling me a stalker or being sarcastic in minutes. I deleted it pretty quickly. (And my imgur account) I’ll give the simplified PG version here, me and a close friend who has been that close friend for a while have recently broken up... being friends? You see, I liked her, and I told her a story about how she was the second person to deny me after I asked them out, but it was funny because they were bisexual, and I had lost a girl to a girl twice now. There’s another bit of info she told me here but I’ll leave it out because emc is family friendly. Anyway, {redacted by staff} she felt bad because well, she was bi and liked another girl, and thus, about an hour ago sent me “sorry” letter, but pretty much she had said that she told me she used to have a crush on me out of pity (she had told me that before) and felt bad and blah blah blah it’s not you it’s me. She was a really close friend, and I get that she denied me, I’m not a stalker, but I just want someone who can tell me how I should... deal with this? I can’t and won’t talk to her, I already replied and we said out goodbyes, but I’m pretty much asking for advice, maybe what I should do to avoid such loss of important people in the future? Or to deal with this loss? Anyway, that’s a glimpse into the horrible failure of a love life I have, beaten by another girl twice, take it as a good laugh and move on, it would make me happy if it made you laugh, I like that, go ahead and tell me I have a weird story in the comments, go ahead and comfort me or something, im not even sure what I want at this point, pretty much just comfort. Losing a friend over this stupid feeling of attraction is terrible... alright, imma press that create button, wish me good luck, or don’t...
Rejection unfortunately is part of life, and a sucky one at that. I cannot say that I have been rejected before, as I guess I just have a lot of luck in this department. As a non- completely straight person, and being family-friendly here on EMC, I leave you with this statement: in my experience, it is much easier to get intimate with someone of the same gender if this is a part of them. For me, this is because the same gender knows how you feel and can relate to experiences and lesser-known things to the opposite gender. However, old friend, If you would like to talk about this more, please, please do not hesitate to further discuss this situation via my inbox here on the fourms! I am not EMC rated (despite as much as I try), so I have no problem in discussing the full situation here if you would like! Sincerely, Faded
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time with that. Rejection sucks. I hope things get better. Being able to stay friends with someone after you try for more can be awkward, and it can take some work on the part of both people. Time apart does help ease that. Best of luck to you.
As my brother said after his relations with a girl and hold to this day "Waman suck" Let me get some time to fire up the keyboard and give a proper response in a bit
I say that just because you were rejected, it isn’t because you are doing something wrong! Remember that the other person has their own passions, but nonetheless you should be proud you expressed your true feelings. Remember that the worst they can say is no, but if you asked anyway, it shows you have courage. Do not get stuck over one person, but try to move on because I’m sure you can find someone else “out there”. Hope it turns out ok!
Wait, I am confused. What's going on? Did you lose a friendship? Why? Or did you not? Then what's the issue? I don't understand your situation.
Unfortunately, rejection is a part of life, especially for LGBT people and other minorities, although it is a very sucky one, and it's especially bad that it happens more for some minority groups. However, keep in mind that just because you're rejected doesn't mean you've done something wrong. As a 15-year-old gay guy with autism, I've never been in a relationship or had to deal with true homophobia IRL, but in June 2017, a guy I like and had known since August 2010, one night, shifted the conversation topic gradually until he asked who I had a crush on. Several times, I told him I refused to answer because some people would judge me for it and I was afraid he was one of them, but he kept telling me "I'm your best friend I would never judge you". He eventually went on to ask "OK will I ever know?", and when I said "Maybe. It just depends on your trustworthiness and political views.", he asked "Is it a boy?", promising to accept me if it was, so I had to tell him "Yes, it is a boy. And it's you.". He seemed supportive at first, but up until very late July of 2017, we had been discussing dating and what we would do if we dated, but he kept harassing me verbally in some pretty personal/sexual ways and also acted like he wanted to "french kiss" me (fortunately it was only verbally, I wasn't able to see him during that time since he was so busy, but I can't imagine what may have happened if I did), and even after I told him several times that his behavior was making me very uncomfortable, he wouldn't stop. Late in July, he ignored me, and by the time he unignored me in mid-August, I decided "Nope. He's not worth my time, so I'm going to try to find another handsome guy to date.", although he mysteriously started acting like a completely straight person what little we've talked since. In late September, he even admitted that he outed me to a guy he's friends with that I used to be (not close) friends with (and occasionally bothered by) a few years ago, although fortunately the other guy (according to a friend of mine who sees him sometimes and is supportive) isn't homophobic. This month I (not so, as his birthday is this month) randomly decided he should have yet another chance (it's unlikely, but what if he's changed?), and then we talked briefly once, and now he's mysteriously ignoring me, and even my friends, even though I thought he either wanted me back as a friend, or wanted to date me (I couldn't tell which since he contradicted himself). I've met another handsome (and this one is nice-seeming) guy early this month, but I'm not sure if he's gay/bi/pan/poly or not, and if so, whether he'd be suitable anyways (although I hope he is both). TL;DR: Basically, rejection is a part of life, although it can be a very painful and bad one, and it doesn't necessarily indicate that you've done something wrong nor is it always discriminatory (although sometimes it does mean those things). Also, dealing with liars and people who contradict themselves, unfortunately, is another bad part of life for most, if not all, people, too. Either way, I hope you get this figured out and find someone new who is better but still attractive enough for you! If you want to talk more, my inbox is open, and I refuse to judge people by race, sexual orientation, gender identity, religion, disability, nationality, etc., nor would I let those types of people who would influence how I (and those close to me IRL) live.
I recommend watching this music video, and I recommend getting this song (if you don't have it already) then listening to it for however long it may take (hours, days, weeks, months, or years) until you get over your ex, bad crush, or whatever. (The song is EMC appropriate or I wouldn't have posted it here.) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2qgadSvNyU EDIT: And in case you're wondering, this is actually one of my favorite songs.
Many people are seeming to misunderstand this post I was rejected, yes, but shortly after, I also lost her as a friend, she literally told me she doesn’t want to talk anymore. I’m not just whining that I got rejected, I’m whining because I lost a friend I’ve had for almost a year now. Unfortunately, the worst they can say is not no, it’s let’s not talk anymore...
Alright, after getting some good info into the chat.... It's important to know the person, that can take a while even if you are friends. Just how the sexual preferences landed for her makes things complicated. A "Dad's Dating Tip" the person you are interested in should have same sexual preference. So Straight to straight, gay to gay. I was always told as a business standpoint, the person you explained is a horrible to make any decisions. So take this rejection with a grain of salt and a friend who actually wasn't actually a friend. It's my tip through most of my relations that end. You will find someone eventually, just got to have patience on your side.
Awww, sorry to read all this Ada. Man, that takes me back quite a few years for sure, and yeah; this stuff isn't easy... Yah, Imgur is fun to share pictures but that's about it. The community is pretty dumb in my opinion, hardly a community in my opinion but more like a group of dummies. A friend of mine once made the mistake of posting and publishing a Minecraft picture she was really fond off. I think it got her 20 or so downvotes for no obvious reason. That's Imgur for you I guess: they dislike what they don't know. Oh well, good thing you remembered us! Now, I'm going to address some very personal issues here and obviously you should just ignore me if this becomes uncomfortable or something... Just correct me if I'm wrong and well, yah, we'll see where this goes. See: reading this gives me the impression that you, just like most people, {redacted by staff}. And you even got close enough with this girl to talk about this subject, which is fair enough. However, there's also one thing bothering me a little bit... It looks to me as if you got rejected only after you talked about {redacted by staff} And that can sometimes definitely cause problems. Now, something very important: it's a very good and healthy thing to talk to your significant other ("SO") about such topics and be open with each other. This can avoid lots of problems and when done right it can even bring you two closer together. But at the same time it's also not something I would bring up during a regular date. And I can't help wonder if that could be one of the reasons for your problem. I mean... if there's one thing I learned from my relationships (keep in mind: no one is the same here!) its that us men seem to think ("differntly than women" rest of comment redacted by staff) My impression has always been that such things are often considered to be "possibly related happenings". Or to put this in different wording, and be a little more open myself: I know for a fact that if I take my gf out on a date that the whole date, for her, will involve around having dinner together, enjoying a movie together, the fun we had in a bar (for example, it's been years since we visited one) and so on. But "that" subject really hardly gets ever mentioned, even though we sometimes do address those things. (redacted by staff) Yups, this is also a very difficult issue. I'd try to act normal around her. Be sure not to fully ignore her and why not give her a call every once in a while and talk about other things? Heck, maybe even try and go on a "date" together but just while being friends? Take her out to a local cafe or something to just talk about common stuff. Pay for one or two drinks ("this round is on me"). Ask her how she's doing, tell her how you're doing and don't bring up the private gymnastic session subject. Instead maybe talk about your favorite movie, maybe you're both gamers? Anything else really. I can't help but wonder what could happen after that Maybe nothing, sure, but... I dunno. I'll also be honest here: I can't help brush of the idea that she could have brought this up just so you'd stop talking about the whole subject and instead focus on different things. I don't know for sure of course, but it does cross my mind. Maybe food for thought? Even so, I really hope that this can give you some ideas and maybe my experiences can also help yours. I dunno...
so im going to answer you as i read, but let me say, (redacted by staff) see because of emcs pg audience and such its hard for me to tell you alot of things, you can PM me for a full idea, but we havent even gone on a date, we live in different timezones. i was specifically hoping youd reply to this because, well, youre shell, so ill make it simple -we cant go on a date, we live too far away -(redacted by staff) again, if you want super detailed not kiddy stuff, pm me and youll get a bigger picture
"Moving right along..." Welcome to the Empire where you get involved with players of all ages Seriously though, this is what I really love about hanging around on the Empire. True story: Thanks to EMC I got to know teens such as yourself who are actually more mature than some of my IRL friends who are around my age. And the other way around too of course Oh well, I was heavily under the impression that all this was about that (part of it anyway). Also considering the bi aspect you mentioned. Even so, I do suggest to keep this in mind for when you grow older. But yeah... sometimes things don't work out. It's a shame, but part of life. I feel you though, it's not easy. Even though, also very important: it may hurt, it may upset you, but I do think it's also very important that she was still honest with you. It's better to get rejected than getting lied to and basically not being treated honestly. I wouldn't mind, np. I can drop you a line and you're free to share whatever you want with me. I always treat PM's as such: private, so you won't have to worry about anything. And if I can help... then I'll definitely try. Aaaah, now I got it. And sure, I'll PM np. But yeah... I don't think you can really prevent any of this. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Of course context is also very important. There are plenty of players on the Empire who I really like hanging out with and who I also spent time with, but only on EMC and not so much outside of that. One thing though... something an old friend of mine once told me: most important is really to always be yourself. Don't try to pretend to be something you're not just to impress the ladies (mentioning them because of the subject, but this obviously applies to everyone actually). Because once they find out (and trust me: they usually do ) then things can really go downhill really fast. This holds especially true in a more serious relationship.
I have been through a breakup before a couple years ago with my ex girlfriend in high school I know the feeling dude I hope everything will turn out better soon
Is that a problem? mhm... okay... maybe I have just had a strange life so far... Anyway, I can also confirm: Imgur isn't the place to post things you're serious about on. To me, it actually looks like that made it quite a bit worse for you. EMC might be a place you can talk about stuff, but those websites actually are quite rare... I think you've delt with this in the right way alredey though: loosing a friend by falling in love with them just is terrible. The one thing I am sure I would do is let it rest for now. You probably won't be able to change it in the next few weeks. Maybe try to contact her again when it feels right, that might be half a year, that might be a month. For now: just let it rest, talk about it with people when you feel bad, that's all you can do, really. Lastly, from what I understood (English not beinng my first langue might eb a problem here...) there is nothing you did wrong, or could have done trumendusly better. Don't say your love life if a "horreble failure" I'm a few years older and also am jet to have had a serious relationship. I don't speak out of experience, but just keep meeting new people, I guess...
Woah, this thread. xD I hope staff agree, but I think posts here are still EMC-friendly. Although Jelle's rolleyes sentence seems a bit dubious. <.< But it's interesting to talk about something without knowing what we're talking about. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ What do you mean by this? I'm friends with multiple lesbians, and I'm not lesbian myself. Edit: Ah, you're talking about dating specifically. Hm... then it seems like that might be a good piece of advice. But I don't think I want to take it.
