Hello Empire Community! Some of you may or may not know me! You may know me as other accounts such as MrWhosMagic etc. Anyway I have come to the conclusion I want to change my life. First let me give you a bit of background on my life.a Im 18 years old, and for as long as I can remember I have suffered from severe depression. When I was 15 I met my first Girlfriend, she changed my life, but after 6 months she decided I just was to much for her to handle I guess. a week later, I meet who I feel was the best and worst person in the world, I meet my second girlfriend, and she came at a critical time, where I really didnt want to live anymore, she changed me, a lot. We get engaged, we bought a house together, everything was amazing. Until 6 months ago. I got cheated on, I lost my girl, I lost my license. She took the house cause I was never on the name, and the entire loan is in my name, I have to pay a huge loan, for literally nothing, I have no money for it, but im stuck with it. Ive lost almost all of my friends due to her lies, her ordering a restraining order on me for not wanting anything to do with her? Ive lost everything, even my family doesnt want me around... The last 6 months have been the worst of my life, love I felt was the only thing to live for, and I lost that along with everything else, ive locked myself away from everyone. I have decided to CHANGEI no longer want to live that life! I want to live my life to the fullest! Experience challenges, overcome anything! And I feel if I can overcome this little obstacle in my way, I feel i will truly find happiness and love and live my life! In order to do this I have decided to get the dream body i've akways wanted, and live a lot healthier life, trying to motivate other people into doing what they love, overcoming any obstacle life might throw at them, wether it be depression, or just your final year of school! In order to do all this, I figured I would take you all along my journey to not only find the body I want, but more imporantly, happiness, to overcome this depression, cause I don't believe depression is something that lasts forever! It can be overcome, it's not easy, but it can be overcome! This thread will be filled with anything from workout shedules, update photos, gym photos, a lot of happy posts, links to things that can help you like YouTube videos, it will be filled also with posts reaching out to people if they are suffering in some kind of way and need someone to talk to! As a community lets help each other! Almost 10% of teens suffer from depression, and 3-5% of people suffer depression throughout their life! Lets all help each other out, stay motivated, use each others successes and triumphs or lessons as motivation! This community already is such an amazing place, and a lot of people can already feel a lot better about themselves being in a happy environment! That is all from me! So expect updates, motivational posts etc etc down below! I hope you all join me on my adventure in order to change my life, to find happiness, and overcome anything in our way! <3 from Cooper
:O I wish you the best on this! Though the things that happened to you are the reason I never go outside after work. People are terrifying!
I think it's really a sign of strength that you can share you story with others. That's a really important obstacle, which you've overcome already. Now I like to believe that obstacles are necessary to make an individual stronger. Without obstacles no progress, and without progress you're standing still. I also would like to share that everyone has their own personal story, their own struggles and their own obstacles. Recognizing your story, struggles and obstacles and knowing what you've learned from them is the path to you a less stressful and more joyful life. Thanks again for sharing, and as Im a friend of yours, you are always welcome to talk, discuss or chill whenever you like
Surely if your name is on the loan you can take her to court over that. Good luck with your plans though
Hey!! I remember talking to you for quite some lengthy sessions way back. I've been thinking about how your life might've been going! I think it's good you posted an update, and if you want to share any more: I'm quite sure some of us here would like to read about your experiences!
I'm surprised you were able to take out a mortgage. It's definitely not in the bank's interest for the following reasons: Your name was not on the deed. Your were not married yet (engaged is not all that secure of a relationship for something like a co-signed loan) Small credit/income history. You are young and probably not stable enough to pay a mortgage without the two points above to back you up. Banks usually research this for their own sake. If by chance your are not co-signed and are straight up the main borrower, that makes the above even more perplexing to me. Really look into that contract. Anyway, you may be in a position to refinance. Just be careful because it may take a few years for that to work out. In the meantime, look for any deductions on loan interests you can get; you should be qualified. Obviously I don't have all the information or all the context. If you are able to get a legal representative you may be able to dig up something that will allow you to take her to court. This, of course, will probably not be easy even if it works because the claim is likely too large for small claims court, which only adds obstacles for you. The most basic thing to do is watch your finances for now. Budgeting is key. Hopefully your new routines will keep you focused. Healthy practices should help make this rough spot more manageable. Good Luck!
in my opinion you cannot change your life, you can make what matters most though. but you can change you life when your new life is here ( reincarnation ). Anyways, I hope you the best on your journey of life! and remember, "Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment" - Buddha
It sounds like you've been through quite a lot recently. Things like this only make you stronger. The positive attitude you have now is a great thing! Don't let your past define who you are now. I wish you the best, and thanks for sharing your story and helping others
Thank you all so far for all your positive feedback, thoughts on the topic, and anyone offering there help and advice in certain situations! I will follow up and hope for the best!
I thought I would link you guys to one of the videos that I do workouts to, it's an amazing motivational video, and just gives you that tingly feeling! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMm6tDavSXg It is by Matuesz M, and I highly recomment watching his videos, there is some great stuff there! One of my favourite quotes right now also is: Courage doesn't always roar, sometimes it's the quiet voice at the end of the day that says i'll try again tomorrow.
